Homeschooling & I: Mengajar Membaca

Dah lama tak tulis pasal aktiviti homeschooling kat rumah ni, dan memang dah beberapa bulan juga aku tak mengajar Aiman secara serius. Puncanya sebab buat sementara waktu, aku kehilangan idea macam mana nak approach Aiman, sebab nampak dia macam tak berapa minat je nak sambung belajar membaca setelah mengenal huruf.

Aku cuba ajar dia membaca bahasa Inggeris menggunakan konsep phonics macam yang sepupu aku rekemen. Tapi Aiman macam blur je. Bila dia blur, tak sampai 10 minit dia pun lari pergi sambung main.

Aiman masih sukakan buku. Dia masih suka ambil buku, pastu suruh Mama yang bacakan untuk dia. Tapi kenapa bila ajar membaca dia macam tak berminat je?

Mungkin aku patut tukar approach.. tapi macam mana?

Untuk bahasa Inggeris dan Arab, agak mudah untuk ajar dia sebab ada banyak apps yang boleh digunakan untuk membantu pengajaran. Untuk bahasa Melayu agak mencabar sebab agak susah nak cari alat bantu. Tambahan pula, dah beberapa bulan aku keliling kedai buku cari siri “Bacalah Anakku” yang sepupu aku rekemen tapi malangnya siri tu dah habis stok. Aku buntu buat seketika. Kalau berterusan macam ni, terpaksalah aku hantar Aiman ke tadika tahun depan. Rancangan asalnya aku nak tangguhkan kemasukan Aiman ke tadika. Aku lebih berminat untuk megajar dia sendiri di rumah.

Tiba-tiba sejak beberapa minggu yang lalu, aku terfikir, kalau kaedah phonics tak serasi dengan Aiman, maknanya aku kena guna kaedah yang sama macam Mama aku ajar aku membaca masa kecil dulu; iaitu memorizing. Masa aku kecil, Mama aku selalu ajak aku duduk sebelah dia dan ajar aku membaca guna siri “Peter and Jane”. Siri tu gunakan teknik menghafal instead of phonics.

Maka aku pun buat rancangan untuk ajar Aiman suku kata Bahasa Melayu dulu, sebab ia lebih senang. Malas nak gi cari flashcard, aku tulis sendiri je. Suruh Aiman hafal.

Proses ini akan mengambil masa. Tapi knowing Aiman, awal-awal memang enjin dia lambat sikit nak panas. Once dia dah dapat momentum, nanti tiba-tiba dia dah pandai, dah ingat semuanya. Sekarang pun, walaupun dah beberapa bulan tak diajar secara aktif macam dulu, dia masih menunjukkan yang dia belajar banyak benda. Antaranya, struktur ayat Bahasa Inggeris dan Bahasa Melayu yang sudah hampir sempurna. English pronounciation and diction is almost perfect. Kadang-kadang bunyi British, kadang-kadang bunyi American. Syukurlah takde pengaruh Australian English. ūüėõ I wouldn’t be happy about that hahaha. Yang penting, be it American or British, he never mix the two. Either the whole sentence is American English, or British. Takde separuh-separuh. Penggunaan ayat juga adalah di tempat yang betul. Dia juga dah pandai bercerita. 2 -3 ayat yang menceritakan apa yang berlaku pada dia. Aku rasa gembira dengan perkembangan itu.

Nak cerita satu artikel menarik yang aku jumpa. Mungkin korang pernah nampak dalam Facebook. Nevertheless, aku nak share kat sini. Korang boleh klik pautan ni.

http://amuslimchildisborn.blogspot.com/2009/04/suggested-quran-memorization-schedule.html

http://www.mariampoppins.com/2013/08/quraan-memorization-schedule-for.html?m=1

Aku belum sempat baca blog ni secara keseluruhan, tapi aku rasa content blog ni bagus. Tip mengajar anak menghafal Al-Quran; sejak berusia 3 tahun, 3 baris sehari. Walaupun anak belum pandai membaca, kita dah boleh mulakan dengan membaca ayat tu dengan makhraj yang jelas dan tajwid yang betul. Aku dah mulakan modul ni jugak.

Student aku sekarang ni bukan sorang, tapi dua orang. Bila ajar Aiman suku kata Bahasa Melayu, kat background dengar bunyi si adik dok ajuk. Aku sebut L-A-LA. Dengar suara halus dok ikut A-A-A. Hahaha sangat comel OK! Dia baru 11 bulan, tapi dah tunjuk semangat nak belajar ABC juga. Kalau tengok, si adik lagi bersungguh nak belajar. Tengok-tengok adik yang tak pernah kenal ABC tu lebih dulu pandai membaca. Heheh..

Nampak gayanya we will be a bit busy again. Nak lagi, aku sendiri pun tengah training untuk jadi childbirth educator dan doula. Still got 3 books to review and tests to sit, classes to conduct, labours to attend, reports to write. Nak seimbangkan dengan rumahtangga lagi. Chayok~!

Homeschooling & I: Aiman and Grolier

It has been a while since the last time I wrote about my homeschooling journey. This time, I will tell you how I teach my son with the aide of an encyclopedia. Remember I told you that I bought Aiman a set of Grolier encyclopedia in this post? Well, to begin with, you do not really need to have an encyclopedia. You can simply explain to your child in accordance to his level of understanding, and of course you should at least show a picture or video to make him understand better what you are saying. I always like to use many kinds of teaching aide when I teach my son. Just remember, repetition is always the best way to teach your child anything.

It so happened, last Wednesday, the Papa had to go outstation in Johor Bharu. Which meant I will be left alone with the kids at home until either one of my two siblings who are staying with me came back. It’s going to be a very long night when Papa is not around.

Somehow, Aiman was suddenly in his learning mood. So he took a few books from his shelf and sat next to me. First, he asked me to read him the story of ‘The Gingerbread Man’. Then, we read on Butterfly Metamorphosis. Interesting! Just explain to him in the simplest language so that he could comprehend, with the aide of the picture in the book.

Aiman & Irfan learning about the metamorphosis of a butterfly

Aiman & Irfan learning about the metamorphosis of a butterfly

I was also trying to explain about the volcanoes, but he was not very interested. So I ¬†just let him ponder further upon what he had learnt; the butterfly metamorphosis. If your child seemed to be not very interested in a topic you are trying to teach, don’t be worried or upset. Let him learn at his own pace. PATIENCE is virtue! :) Some kids learn very quickly, some are a bit slower, some are keen learners, and some just don’t seem to want to learn yet. The keyword is; CAPTURE their interest. Teach them in a way that can capture their attention. Be creative!

I always make sure Irfan joins us everytime I am teaching Aiman something. I purposely want to expose him to knowledge starting from a very young age. I want to set up a habit among my children to love reading and seeking knowledge.

Thirsty for knowledge

Thirsty for knowledge

See the drawing below? Guess what it is…

What do you think of this?

What do you think of this?

It can be a lot of things. This was Aiman’s drawing. I have no idea what he was trying to draw, not that he could explain either. But it sure did look like a lizard to me. A weird-looking lizard.

The Real Face of Empathy

Last night, I went to see my grandma who had just underwent a major surgery to remove stones from her gall bladder. She is 70 years old. The surgery was very risky considering that she has diseases of all sorts; heart problem, high blood pressure, diabetis, gastric, just to mention a few, ..and now gall bladder stone. The surgery was performed in KPJ Damansara Specialist by a very senior specialist because of the many health complications my grandma is having, making the surgery a very difficult one. Therefore, praise be to Allah that she is now in good condition and is recovering well, and hopefully fast.

The thing about seeing my grandma especially in these few years is, always having to listen to her complaining on and on about her pain and sufferings. A bit boring you know, the outcomes of every visit can always be anticipated. When I was younger, I was never able to understand why she was always complaining, sounding very negative and low-spirited everytime. I always thought that we should always be positive and be strong in facing whatever trials that Allah give us; be it health problems or financial problems whatsoever. Until I had my own share of pain, my first major surgery; a c-section delivery.

I learnt a very important lesson; YOU CAN NEVER UNDERSTAND ONE’S PAIN AND SUFFERING UNTIL YOU HAVE BEEN IN HIS/HER SHOES.

Recovering from the c-section was the most traumatic experience in my life. I lost all the strength that I thought I possessed. I was not able to do a lot of things as easily as a healthy person for a long course of time. I realized that I had a lot of comfort in my life that I had taken for granted. And how little gratitude I have shown for every good things in my life. I was left with not only a physical cesarean scar, but also emotional scar.

That was the turning point for me. Besides learning to listen better to my grandma and give the right responses, I was also able to listen and respond better to my late mother-in-law who suffered from Parkinson. Remember my story about her? You can read about it here.

The real message here is, when somebody comes to you with a problem, more often than not, she is not trying to ask for sympathy. She is not trying to ask you to be sorry for her. Rather, she is trying to heal her emotional wounds, and ease her pain by talking about it. In short, she is trying to heal herself, and feel better. By paying attention to her true troubles and acknowledge it by responding kindly, you can actually help her heal. This is what you should do, rather than brushing her off by saying that she should be thankful that she is still in better condition compared to a lot other less fortunate people, which in turn hurts her more.

The easiest example, when my grandma starts telling me of her pain, how should I respond?

Should I tell her to stop thinking of her pain and troubles, and focus on the positive thoughts that she is still alive and can still walk around although slowly, as compared to some folks her age that are bedridden, or had to stay in hospitals, or dead even?

Or should I tell her that I am sorry for her pain, and then forget all about it?

Or should I acknowledge her pain by telling her that what she is going through IS painful, because she is no longer able to do all the things she liked doing, she can no longer be active like before, and she has to depend on others, and then try to soothe her by saying that Allah wants to reward her big for all her patience, and then pray that she gets better?

Option one is simply rude. You don’t tell that kind of thing to other people. No matter how motivating it sounds to you. You have never been in her shoes, remember? So please be mindful.

Option two is simply lending a sympathetic ear. Nice enough but not helping.

Option three is what we call EMPATHY, where we LISTEN, ACKNOWLEDGE, and offer SUPPORT. ( I said LISTEN instead of HEAR because hearing simply means perceiving sound while listening means perceiving sound and paying attention to it. )

Bottomline, when we are faced with a sick or less fortunate person, we should always be empathic, especially if we have never been in her shoes. Even if we think we understand, we actually don’t. How can you understand something that you have not been through? If you are not sure how to show empathy, just be more observant of people around you and you might find someone who can set a good example of empathy for you to learn from.

Jangan Melatah Depan Anak Ye~

Hujan pulak di hari ahad yang berbahagia ni. Dapat ke Papa dan Atuk Aiman meracun kat kebun kelapa sawit Atuk? Kitorang sekarang kat Batu Pahat. First roadtrip dengan kereta baru.

Papa paling popular di RnR Ayer Keroh.. Irfan tak puas hati Abang Aiman sibuk kacau daun..

Papa paling popular di RnR Ayer Keroh.. Irfan tak puas hati Abang Aiman sibuk kacau daun..

Next weekend second roadtrip menghala ke Kota Bharu pulak sempena parents aku nak berpindah rumah.

Nak cerita ni, sejak aku bersalinkan Aiman, tak tahu la kenapa jadi lekat tabiat melatah pulak. Tapi takde la kronik. Just “Oh, mak kau!” je. Hehehe. Tapi ia tetap melatah kan. Susah-susah aku ajar diri aku ni untuk tidak melatah sejak kecil dulu, bila jadi mak orang tiba-tiba pulak terlekat tabiat tu.

So ceritanya, pagi tadi waktu aku dok basuh pinggan kat sinki, aku terlepas botol susu irfan yang penuh dengan air. (Nasib baik terlepas dalam sinki kalau tak, tak pasal-pasal nak kena mengelap pulak). Secara automatiknya aku pun terlatah. “Oh, mak kau!” Tidak langsung kusedari bahawa Adam Aiman bin Yasser Helmy ada kat belakang aku masa tu. Tiba-tiba aku dengar ada suara budak kecil mengajuk, “Oh, mak kau!”

Aku pun pusing. Ah sudah! Bila la pulak dia ada kat belakang aku ni. Siap mengajuk pulak dah.

Oh, mak kau!

Oh, mak kau!

Mulai saat itu, aku bertekad untuk tidak melatah lagi.

Irfan yang steady as always~

Irfan yang steady as always~

Sekian, hehehe..

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